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This is my personal story. It is a story of change and transformation and, with this transformation, I no longer need to weigh over pounds in order to cope with life. This article will discuss the astrological aspects that contributed to my weight problem and the astrological configurations that allowed me to take control of my addiction to food. I have heard people say that they lost weight under a good Uranus transit or a nice Saturn transit or Saturn crossing the Ascendant— but did they keep it off for the rest of their lives or did it creep back on after a few months?
To under go the massive change required to lose a large amount of weight and to keep it off for the rest of your life requires major transformational transits. I do not want to hear any of these excuses because this is all that they are, Excuses! To lose weight and function at a normal size requires the greatest courage, the courage to face life unprotected, unprotected by the layers of fat.
In a past life, you could have put on your chain mael suit of armor. Today, we must resort to the physiological layers of fat for protection. Why is it difficult to make the decision to lose weight? Because to lose weight and to keep it off is the most monumental decision that you can ever make— that decision to totally change yourself and to never go back to being the Old Familiar Self, familiar to you as well as others— the passive self, the care-taking self, the angry, enraged and embittered self, the wounded self, the fearful self, all unhappy yet comfortable patterns of being with the old eating and the old behavioral patterns.
Another major hurtle to surmount if you make that monumental decision— the alienation and the sabotaging tactics of friends and family who do not want you to change. This means that you may very well be fighting this battle alone. You are worth it! These destructive relationships are not. Have I ever advised anyone not to lose the weight? There is no shame in knowing little or nothing about a subject but it is a crime if that subject is you!
There is no single signature of obesity. I have been over-weight my entire life and the weight gain started when I began to go to school at the age of 6. My mother held on to me, she did not want to let me go so I never went to nursery school or kindergarten, pre-schooling that assists in social adaptation.
I was an only child who grew up on a farm, totally isolated and insulated from the real world. My mother did not want to let me go in other ways— she needed an eating buddy. And, it was easier for her to complain about my weight issues than address her own. When I was very young, my mother took me to the doctor about my weight. He gave me a diet program— I was 8 years old— and my mother would tell me to follow it, while she prepared mashed potatoes and gravy and ate ice cream at night.
The culprit for addiction is Neptune with its boundary issues, a lack of psychological boundaries between self and others, between self and the parents initially. Later, the individual creates the physical boundaries of fat.
While at the hairdressers, I read an article stating that research had been conducted on over-weight adults with a lifetime pattern of obesity. This is exactly what my childhood was like— from the age of 14, when my mother encouraged me to start keeping a diary, she read every page until I moved away. Even then, I could not get away from her.
She left my father and moved in with me! Finally, after 3 months, my parents went for pastoral counseling and she moved out. For years, she never forgave me for not wanting her to stay with me. While I never experienced sexual abuse, this too is a boundary issue. The weight acquired serves to keep a distance from others who may invade, hurt or betray.
Neptune acts as a culprit through its sabotaging effect. It constantly sabotages our energies and independence. With strong Neptune aspects, especially the Mars-Neptune aspect and I use very wide orbs , the individual often had a parent who did not want them to grow up or grow away, sabotaging their initiative at every turn, talking them out of doing and, as an adult, they talk themselves out of doing, doing what they want for themselves.
Later on, you will attract people into your life who sabotage your efforts, keeping you busy with their problems and talking you out of doing something that would take you away from their needs, talking you out of doing, doing for yourself and not them. Neptune sabotages through Ambivalence. It is the procrastination that puts off dieting and exercising until it is too late in the day and then we can just do it tomorrow… but tomorrow never comes. Neptune sabotages through Denial and Excuses!
Neptune provides an opportunity to tune out and deny anything unpleasant in the life. In this way, Mars becomes suppressed, another issue with food addiction. In my lectures, the first defense of the compulsive over-eater to hearing my message is to feel compelled to tell me their excuses. This pattern of denial distorts our conception of how much food we eat and the reasons for our obesity.
Healing our addiction can only occur when we replace delusion with truth! Neptune sabotages by crippling our ability to say NO — to define boundaries for others and ourselves. At this point, unable to establish effective boundaries for yourself and others, you need to protect yourself with another layer of fat and comfort your depression with something soothing to eat. I started to observe the very thin people that I knew. I observed them to see why they are thin and I am not.
Our bodies are really like a computer. Mars is often strong, encouraging them to act rather than to store. They have the ability to utilize their Mars on their own behalf; the compulsive over-eater cannot. The compulsive over-eater develops a huge hard drive onto which they store most of their feelings, specifically the unpleasant emotions of stress, boredom, loneliness, fear and filling a void. Ideally, we can store our feelings but we eventually need to review these stored emotions.
The compulsive over-eater never does… until that day when they begin to lose weight. These stored emotions will come off in layers, like peeling the layers of an onion. Removing the layers of stored emotions should be done gradually or, as I have observed many times, the individual will panic and binge.
As these repressed and stored emotions begin to surface, we must slowly allow ourselves to honor these feelings, seeing them for what they are, and then release them. This can really only be done when we lose weight slowly. There is no controlling it. This newly released energy is very magnetic, regardless of the body size. When a compulsive over-eater has a lot of fears around sexuality, this fear, unprocessed, can drive him or her back to eating.
I felt very angry when I knew that I was being treated very differently as a normal sized person. If the anger is not addressed, old eating patterns will return. The individual must learn to protect self in other ways besides eating.
To get in touch with the layers of fear, ask this question: The goal of the Transformational Process is to become whole and integrated, to be your own person, regardless of what others expect, not absorbing their criticism, learning to trust others and, most important, learning to trust yourself.
The Moon rules the first and most obvious type. This is the nurturing type who cannot define boundaries— nurturing to everyone but themselves. The excess weight becomes the boundary that cannot be established psychologically.
This type of compulsive over-eater has learned to gain approval through servitude, care taking and giving value to others over themselves. I have observed many women who feel frustrated and unfulfilled by their domestic responsibilities. Their identity becomes trapped by the role of wife, mother and caretaker. Rather than address their needs for independence and the fears associated with living a life of their own, they push down these feelings with food.
Rather than express the anger or resentment that they feel, they experience a safe feeling substitute, depression— and then they eat. Remember, if you cannot say NO to your family, how can you possibly say NO to food?! What would be the worst thing that could happen? Is it really that bad? Take classes, attend lectures, and join action groups that hike, dance or travel. Give yourself massages, give yourself a make-over at a quality department store, buy some expensive perfume, buy the best food that you can afford in order to make eating pleasurable and, most important in self-nurturing, say NO to the demands of others.
Solitude is as necessary for our creative spirits to develop and flourish as are sleep and food for our bodies. Mars and Pluto rule the second personality type.
Both the Mars and Pluto types are storing a tremendous amount of anger, rage and resentment. They hold onto the weight as a storage space for their angry emotions— specifically, anger that they are very unwilling to release. This anger is used as a barrier to closeness. Anger drives people away, although these individuals are rarely aware of how angry they really are and the mixed messages they are sending out.
If you cannot let go of the anger, if you cannot let go of any of these emotions, you cannot let go of the layers of fat on which to store that anger— those feelings that, through Neptune, you wish to escape. These become stored like gigabytes on a big old hard drive. It is a pattern of abuse that triggers the rage. Albeit, justified, it must be processed, not stored.
The Pluto types have strong control issues and eating becomes the one way that they can be out of control. I have observed individuals who have grown very comfortable with the limitations of their weight. The limitation of their physical body gives them a lot of control, control that is highly resistant to change. And, change is something that they cannot control 1. The lesson here is that they need to empower themselves with others. In doing so, it will make it easier for them to let go of the protection, physical and psychological, provided by the chain mael armor of stored fat.
These individuals must learn to trust themselves, trust that they can protect themselves directly or that they really do not need to protect themselves in most situations— only then can they come to the point of trusting others.
The Moon and its aspects show how we deal with our emotions due to the emotional patterns cultivated during our formative years. The Moon also represents habits and habitual behaviors that influence addiction. Pennsylvania astrologer, Amanda Owen, conducted a research project and she discovered that people with strong Moon-Mars aspects often wanted their food quickly and they were fast eaters. My own research has substantiated this pattern.
This can be a contributing problem for the compulsive over-eater who eats quickly without enjoying the food and often grabbing at the quickest food to eat, not necessarily the healthiest. When you eat fast, you cannot register that you are full 2. Instead of dealing with unpleasant emotions— stress, frustration, boredom or loneliness— they eat, go shopping, anything that provides immediate gratification.
This often stems from a mother, unable to deal with her own unhappy emotions, who gives some thing as a substitute for emotional connectedness. Hard aspects between the Moon and Saturn often indicate arguing and tension at the dinner table. Food allergies often occur as a result of this stressful eating environment. Wheat, corn, potatoes, sugar and dairy products are often not tolerated and they actually contribute to the addiction when eaten.
This aspect is less common with food addiction but weight can be a barrier of rebellion, to rebel against the demands and expectations of a parent. A parent may have had a model of beauty to which the child rebels. Whenever they set up a structure of eating for themselves, they rebel and compulsively over-eat. This is the aspect that creates the boundary flaw to which weight is used as a substitute boundary. Often, it represents a preoccupied mother and a pattern of disillusion and dissatisfaction through the mother not fulfilling her dearest hopes and wishes.
With an eating disorder, a preoccupied parent could leave the child feeling unprotected. When associated with food addiction, this aspect indicates a child who felt controlled by a parent, learning to stuff the resentment with food.
The individual rebels against the control by being out of control with eating. Growing up in a critical, perfectionist environment, the individual experiences perfectionist demands that he or she cannot possibly fulfill. With a food addiction, the individual sets up a boundary of fat for protection and distancing— and as a release from ever feeling the painful emotions of rejection, guilt and shame.
The psychological pattern of a suppressed Mars is to stuff the anger— and to stuff it with food. Sedentary patterns may be established as a means of tuning out from life. These planets are associated with Will and the Throat Chakra. Initially, through the stress of repression and anxiety, the adrenals are taxed. Later, this adrenal stress pulls on the thyroid gland. In talking to people with an under-active thyroid, they frequently complain that they do not feel alive.
Physically, this can be addressed through adrenal supplementation, thyroid support and even taking organic, cold pressed coconut oil that quickly raises the body temperature and energy level. However, the psychological patterns that contribute to obesity are more difficult to change.
This is the aspect that tells me that there was a parent who did not want the child to grow up or grow away. Later, these individuals sabotage their own efforts by talking themselves out of doing, especially doing something for themselves. These people often feel that they never scored a victory in expressing their anger, their Mars. Often, when they feel anger, they become quit tired and even depressed. This aspect is actually best suited for fighting for an ideal, something greater than themselves, but not directly for themselves.
With the compulsive over-eater, this combination can indicate abuse. The rage and resentment are suppressed through eating. They often fear the rage within. They fear that they could kill someone— so they eat instead, killing themselves with the health issues that arise through obesity. The thyroid condition must be addressed with a physician. Solaray Adrenal Caps can be obtained at a health food store. An alternative for the thyroid condition would be taking 1 tablespoon daily of organic coconut oil to raise the body temperature and the energy level.
This seems to work for a lot of people. Dance puts you in touch with your body. Contra dancing is an excellent aerobic form of body movement and you do not have to worry about a partner. Long walks are excellent and easy on the body. The past is the past. Deal with it, embrace it and its pain, and let it go. You cannot change the past but you can change your future. More important, learn to speak from your heart.
Activate your Mars so that you can break through the glass barrier of Neptune! After the death of my mother in , I joined a support group. One of the disciplines was to write a poem about the lost parent.
These words suddenly came to me— words so true about my mother and I have vowed not to let this pattern continue with me…. If you only have 10 or 20 pounds to lose, that extra weight that has crept on slowly over the years, then a nice Uranus transit or any Pluto transit will motivate you to make changes in your diet and physical activities.
For the compulsive over-eater, a major lifestyle change is required to get that weight off and keep it off— forever!
I have observed a pattern of transformational astrological indicators in the horoscopes of individuals who transformed their addictive patterns with food or alcohol. Transpluto transits heal an addiction through a process that elevates the individual to a level of inner self-sufficiency that makes this possible.
These transits can be obtained from the Solar Fire and WinStar astrological programs. While this can be determined by examining the declination of the progressed Moon, this can easily be calculated on Solar Fire as a degree graphic ephemeris. Carolyn Egan kindly showed me how to set up this graphic and I was amazed to find that all of my example charts for people who stopped drinking, smoking or lost a lot of weight occurred when the progressed Moon was at maximum south latitude.
These were periods of my greatest transformations. This period or cycle lasts for several years. The cycle that occurred in the early s marked the time when I made the courageous decision to leave Catholic schools and attend public schools. The second cycle occurred when I made the courageous decision to live life as a normal sized person.
This may be a bit of a surprise but Jupiter can be involved with massive weight loss. As demonstrated in my progressed wheel for November , the beginning of my transformational cycle, the progressed Jupiter was exactly on my progressed Ascendant. By the autumn of , the transiting Jupiter crossed my natal Ascendant and I actually began my weight loss program. What happened during this cycle? I discovered new ways of expanding besides gaining weight! Later, I started taking dance lessons.
A planet progressing into the sign of Scorpio can portend a greater sense of resolve that is supportive of the transformational process. Any Pluto transit but more potently the conjunction, square or opposition from Pluto can bring the individual to the point of taking control of any out-of-control habits.
Initially, the transiting Pluto in hard aspect to a natal planet will make the individual feel overwhelmed and out of control with their life situation. This will extend into the eating pattern.
During the Transformational Process, the individual will take control of their life and their addiction. Tired of feeling out of control, something snaps internally and they take charge. Closets represent your inner space, the basement represents your subconscious and your car represents your body in general.
Compulsive over-eaters have chaos and disorder in their personal environments. Take a look at the inside of the car of a compulsive over-eater. Never eat in the car. Put all groceries in the trunk. Give yourself permission to throw out problem foods. Define boundaries with your family and tell them that problem foods are not allowed in the house.
If not locked up, they will be thrown out! And, remember, the grocery store, to the compulsive over-eater, is a War Zone! Take a friend grocery shopping. Initially, Neptune can encourage over-eating to make us feel more grounded. I find that the Bach Flower Remedy, Clematis, is a powerful cure for this feeling of disconnectedness. Later, often through some disappointment or disillusion, the individual can actually move beyond their self-created boundaries. If I had known what it would be like to travel through Eastern Europe alone and for the first time, I would never have gone.
Under Neptune, I had no sense of what I was doing or where I was going, as if God had put a brown paper bag over my head. The favorable aspects comfortably expand our vision, allowing us to explore new options of diet, exercise, and lifestyle patterns. With the hard aspects, these can initially stimulate compulsive over-eating because you feel like your fingers are stuck in an electrical outlet. It generates a type of nervous electrical energy for which food seems to ground and soothe.
This very uncomfortable feeling ends only when we end something in our lives that we have outgrown. Ending a bad relationship or frustrating job can take 10 pounds off in a week! This is my story and my observations of the Transformational Process. It is not an easy process. If anyone would like a copy of the astrological chronology of my weight loss from through , contact me by e-mail.
They often have Taurus-Gemini combinations. If the sign of Cancer is involved, there can be some digestive sensitivity that contributes to the slowness in eating. I hv been on portion control n mostly hv ghar ka khana.. Bt wht i needed ws motivation to get my butt moving n work out.. I have just been lacking on motivation.. Evn my old pics wud nt inspire me.. This goa trip has been an eye opener in many ways.. Making me realise hw badly im doing on my fitness too..
After going bak i have made a pact to work out seriously n get back to yoga n walking.. Thanks once again for this article.. Just the right motivation at the right time…: Never even think like that. Always feel good about yourself and keep doing what you are meant to do. It shows through your lovely comments. You are always inspiring Rati.. Tell me more about it. We are open to new ideas.
Well Rati I do agree with you. All your above rules are really golden one. I also follow above things in one way or other specially Love your Body, Inches count, Stop listening to people and ask someone to help. I would like to add few tips … Drink 1 to 2 glass of warm water , one can add lemon or green tea bag … If we can do it in morning empty stomach that would be great as it cleanses the entire stomach. I Reached 55 Kgs which is ideal weight for my height 5 feet 4 inches.
I was 63 kg before …. I am going to try your tips from now on. I agree on all points. But the point on dressing up everyday despite your weight is something I never read anywhere before. And its so so true Rati. I was 84 kg in and had joined gym in With proper gym trainers and a good dietician who didnt ask to starve but actually made a healthy diet plan which allowed to eat everything properly , I came down to 68 kg.
I have reduced 10 kgs after my delivery. I wish my time comes soon too…. I had put on a lot as had to sit and study for my CA exams last yr.. I joined a gym in march.. I guess health is always more imp than everything else. Rati chalo ek fat donation camp chalate hai… hihihihi!!!! I still love dressing up and I know and feel good about who I basically am as a person just like you mentioned in your article: Being a stay at home mom only adds to weight gain.
So, taking one thing at a time is the best way as you put it. Setting achievable goals first will bring about motivation!! Guess take out time to atleast go for a little walk to a near by park. One step at a time like I said. I lost around 23 kgs in a span of 7 months.. I am sending the article to my best friend, she is able to lose a lot a weight but then she gains it back again..
I guess its all about sticking to the rules. You guys have just been sweet always. Ahhhhhh this is what i was waiting for!!! If possible could you give some gym tips also??
My hubby got sick and I lost perspective and all. I also made some food portion change. Now I lost 10 kgs. I m just wishing when I will be able to post dis kind of before and after pic of mine.. I mean wow ur post was so different frm all d other articles on different websites regarding weightloss instead of pilauing any gyan you jst talk sense.. Rati i have been following each of your post.
An ardent fan now. I myself have been a happy go lucky kind of female. N loved myself lots. From past few months my fitness level has really become terrible. Have been diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. Not able to walk properly but better now. Hence gets irritated at times and too frustrated and some times depressed too.
But we females are self motivater. We fall on our own then rise n shine. Every day ur post inspire me to take care of myslf. I keep on trying everything. At this hour i feel gr8.
Gradually improving n really feel gr8 abt myself again. You have become my bestest friend. Love you so much. Keep going n Keep inspiring. That is a lovely and inspiring post.. I have and so gained weight as I moved to London. Really really loved your article. I lose hope , stop exercising , gain hope start and then stop again. This is a cycle. N then I feel what ever I tried is gone for waste..
This is my first comment. I am really enjoying all the post and following it too. Thankyou guys for all your efforts. Wowww so motivating article Rati ….. Gonna help a lot to of girls. Just book marking it fr future if I gain lot of weight to reduce that…. I m just fan of urs now. Enjoy reading articles here…. Nd hv learned a loooot. Thanks again fr such beautiful article… Every girl goes through from this face in life, so helpful.
Hi Rati…this will be my first comment.. I read your article on regular basis…. Your email address will not be published. I think you are going in right direction. It would work eventually! Start slowly but just keep doing it. You are a very stylish woman Rati. I truly admire you. Thanks for the article. Poorva, Thanks a ton. Good luck to both of you. Madhu, hope you keep going.
Come back and read it again! I am good aarbee. Thank you soo much reema. You guys are really motivating. I has been quite slow for me but I am glad i could do it. Guess comments from all of you have motivated me as well.
Keep doing whatever keeps you happy and healthy. Hi Rati Ji, The article is really very motivating. I will try your suggestion now. I am also going to join a gym next month. We provide 5-Star customer service and the fastest shipping available. We ship 6 days per week - Monday through Saturday.
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